Then and Now – Life After Nanny

Oh yea, I’m still here.  Hanging on by a thread – but here.

People use to ask me how I managed to blog while raising triplets and working full time and my answer was “I don’t know, I just do.”

Well, I figure out how – I had a nanny!

Then and Now Life After Nanny

When the opportunity to get the kids into preschool presented itself in December, I knew it was something I had to do.  I knew our life would change – I just didn’t realize how much.

~ Then ~

I would get up an hour and a half before I had to be at work, get dressed, kiss the kids’ good-bye and set out on my 40 min commute and make it to work on time or early.

~ Now ~

I *should* get up at least 3 hours before I need to be at work, but struggle to get up 2 hours before I need to be at work.  I get myself dressed, go into the kids’ bedroom to wake everyone up and then herd them downstairs.  I turn on a cartoon (currently working our way through Dragon Tales), fill sippies with milk, take everyone potty and get everyone dressed.

Once dressed, I herd everyone to the car, after checking the calendar to see who gets to sit in the coveted middle seat.  I try to keep my cool while convincing everyone to climb in a seat, turn around, sit down and help me buckle the top bucket.  {“No it’s X’s day for the middle, you had it yesterday and Y gets it tomorrow”}

Off to school!

Once we get there, I have to convince everyone to get out of the car and go into the building.  They love school; they just don’t want to do the work to walk into the building.

Now back to the car and start my commute that will now take closer to an hour because of traffic, all the while praying my first morning meeting is canceled.  There’s no way I’m not going to make it on time!

Nanny Tonya

~ Then ~

Leave work 8.5 hours after arrival (I only take a 30 min lunch) and head home to enjoy an evening playing with my babies.  I would come home to a house with mostly clean laundry, clean sippies and clean babies.  The worse part of my evening is my inability of find matching PJ tops and bottoms.  The hours between the kids going to bed and my going to bed were mine to do with as I please.

~ Now ~

Leave work promptly at 4:30 – otherwise there’s no way to get to school on time.  We head home to dirty sippies, dirty laundry, and dirty kids – all of which need to be cleaned.  Anything I don’t get done between work and bedtime will be waiting for me on the weekends.  I do what I can before putting the kids to bed and then I collapse in my chair – too tired to move.

Nanny Hannah

~ Then ~

The kids and I got out of the house to do something every weekend – not negotiable!  No activity was off limits as long as it got us out of the house for a couple hours.

~ Now ~

Do we really have to leave the house???  There’s laundry to the done, rooms to clean and a million other little things that no longer take care of themselves.  We’re lucky to go do something once a month.  I feel lousy – I want to be Fun Mom again.

Nanny Christa

Life the first three years wasn’t all rainbows and sunshine, but it was a hell of a lot easier than it is right now.  Oh, and all those people who told me the Three’s are worst than the Two’s, why did you have to be SO right?

Tonya, Hannah and Christa – thank you so much for making the first three years so much easier.  You are missed!



  1. says

    I never had a nanny but still I can relate! Especially to the “second shift” chores at home that keep me from enjoying my children after school/work. Oh and weekends too feel like a double edged sword. There’s got to be a better way, I just haven’t found it yet.

  2. says

    We went through this same transition at 21 months, and I’ve been trying to think how I handled it. I think the difference was that my nanny wasn’t that great and didn’t pick up the house? Ha! I always say that so many of these transitions are for the good of my kids, but are a lot harder on me. It’s worth it, you just have to find your new rhythm.

    I eventually hired a babysitter to come every other week for 2 hours on Tuesday evenings so I could get things done. Run errands, grab groceries, or even clean the house. There were times I just hid in the basement! Is there anything that would make your life easier? Sometimes it’s just finding that one thing to outsource or change up….

    • Sarah Brandt says

      Thanks! I like idea of a babysitter every other week.

      I know the decision to change to preschool was the right one. Just seeing how much they’ve blossomed both socially and intellectually these last few months proves that. You’re so right; these changes are harder on me than them.

  3. says

    I don’t have a nanny or preschool… Oh how I dream about the day my boys go to school!!! Anyways, 2 things that I think would make life so much easier are maybe a cleaning service that comes to do the deep cleaning once or twice a month & wash dry fold laundry service. The only time we ever used a laundry service was when we were in the midst of moving & didn’t have a washer & dryer & there was NO WAY I was trying to do the laundry myself at a laundry mat with 3 toddlers in tow! It was so nice to bring home ALL our laundry clean & folded. I hope you find your groove soon :)
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  4. Jana KM says

    ha ha I have always been more in your “now” zone and am also looking for ways to make our lives easier. I am a smc and have adopted two kids now ages 2 and 3.5. I just hired a cleaning lade to come every three weeks but what i really need is a housekeeper/cook at least part-time. Dont know about you but I also find myself saying “What am I going to cook today?” Both kids go to Montessouri now but its very expensive and I am looking at options for the fall to start my daughter in regular JK. I laughed when you gave your am routine because ours is the same!!! Some ams we get to school and I realize my daughters hair isnt even brushed yet… You are amazing for having three!

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